Become less intimidating guys
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While sometimes in the dating world you will find guys you think are intimidating, there's also the possibility that you yourself are scaring off potential dates.
So what should you do if you get this feedback at work from your peers or superiors? “Our brain tends to reject or dislike people or something that is too perfect or demands perfection from us. The Pratfall Effect happens when a person makes a mistake and, in doing so, becomes more likable.
Here are five steps to reforming your unapproachable image and getting back on track. Admitting that you are not perfect and need help understanding how people perceive you can give you the Pratfall Effect.” In other words, you can start combating the perception that you’re intimidating by admitting a small amount of fault and asking people to explain how your behavior affects them.
You can stand up for what you believe in, advocate for yourself and for others, and be sure that credit is given where it’s due.
But when does assertiveness cross over into the territory of being intimidating?
“If you want to be less intimidating, take practical steps that rework your image in another way using things like body language, emails, less curtness in interactions etc.” One strategy you can try is to take a little more time with each workplace interaction than you normally would.
“Get to know them on a more personal level and that fear will start to go away. Ask questions like: “Was it what I said, or how I said it? ” Colene notes that you need to “be really open and set goals to make specific behavioral changes.
Even when you're not talking your body continues to send messages to those around you, warns lifestyle coach Renee Cutaia Olson in a "Huffington Post" article.